okay i am going to bed now goodnight sweet dreams god bless heating blankets


Anonymous asked: than that but if you had to guess? i'm just about to order right now tbh haha. its the exact same bra i'm pretty sure as my old ones

try these ones instead

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Anonymous asked: omg thank you so much for answering seriously. but yeah i have to pull it down in the back and i spill out the top and then i fix that and then i'm spilling out the bottom if that makes sense. also the straps dig in a little sometimes i think. i'm just going to stick with vs pink for right now but later when i have more money i'll look into better places. so by your best estimate, coming from a 34dd with these issues... what would you guess i should go for? i know it's little more complicated

yeah if you’re spilling out the bottom your cupsize is definitely too small. it’s really hard to tell without seeing what you’d be, but the most average sizes in my store are 30/32 F/G/H. I would probably try a 32G on you, just from what I know, because if you’re spilling out both of the top and bottom the cup is significantly too small, and if your band is slidding up that is also a problem that can be solved by going down in the band and up in the cup. To be sure of your band size, have someone measure your rib cage with your shirt off, directly under your breasts. you can do it too, but the way you have to move kind of skews it a little bit. 

some really good companies that make things in that size are freya (i’ve been told it runs a bit big in the band though), fantasie, and panache.

Anonymous asked: ps i know i should go to a real boutique and let them measure me etc but i've looked up places and there really isn't anything around here and i just really need something and i'll be fine if i gotta return it but i just need to try something bc i'm constantly pulling up bc i'm always spilling and my back and it's just shiiiiitty and yeah but anyway if you answer i really appreciate it bc i know you get paid for this stuff at your job etc but yeah thank you


okay so, if it’s riding up your back the band is too loose, go down. Spilling and having to pull up your bra means the cup is too small, try going up at least one cup size. also look for something with lots of support. in larger cups unlined cut and sewn bras tend to be actually pretty helpful because of the seams provide extra support and direction for the breast tissue. check out this post on how to fit and how it should fit, and I recommend trying out HerRoom.com to find a bra.

EDIT: remember if you want to both go down in band size and up in cup size you’ll have to go up two cups for it to actually be different. so like 34DD/E to be up in cup and down in band would be a 32G

Anonymous asked: would you mind helping me out? I've been wearing a 34DD for years in shitty vs pink bras (they may just be shitty bc they were def the wrong size from the beginning) and I'm looking to just order some new ones and see if they'll work bc I don't want to go through the store because that's just treacherous. I know the 34 is band and then DD represents the different between band and bust, correct? so would it make sense if i were to "go up a cup" would that be like.... actually i have no clue ahhhh

If you were to go up a cup that would be a 34 DDD or F depending on what country the maker is from. I wrote this post on how to measure for your bra size, but it’s important to remember that’s often inaccurate, but the post also goes through how a bra should fit.

I recommend trying to find a professional fit shop in your area. i can help more if you can tell me what sorts of problems you’re having with your bra, like spilling out the top, falling out the bottom, straps slipping, etc.




{ this is a skill i’ve been using a lot lately, thought i’d share :) }

     {  Distress Tolerance Skill: Coloring Mandalas


     1}   go to www.printmandala.com and print a couple of mandalas that you like. (you can also find some on google images.)
     2}   buy set of colored pencils or markers if you don’t have them. more colors = better
     3}   buy a clipboard if you wanna lie in bed and color.
     4}   set these aside and ready to go so they are easily accessible when you are distressed


     1}   choose a mandala from your pre-printed stash
     2}   set a timer (phone is good) for 30 minutes
     3}   color it with ur markers or pencils. i prefer pencils.
     4}   optional: play an audiobook or music while coloring. make sure it’s not sad music.
     5}   when timer goes off, stop coloring. ask yourself, what level is my distress right now? if still high, set timer for another 30 minutes and keep coloring. if tolerable, stop coloring and do thing you want to do.
     6}   repeat as needed until distress is tolerable


     coloring patterns is distracting enough to pull your attention away from negative thoughts/emotions, but mandalas are also repetitive so you can kind of “zone out” while coloring. it feels good being able to create something and you feel a sense of competency or confidence. there’s no competitive aspect to it so you can just do the activity without having to worry about doing it perfect or right or better than anyone else. it can remind you of a simpler time when all that was expected of you was coloring. :) it is easy and almost everyone can do it.


    — stick to the timer. even though you want to keep coloring when it goes off, stop once you finish the segment you’re on and put the pencil down. tell yourself you can come back and finish it after you do the thing you’re putting off.

    — you can do this activity without using a timer, especially if you don’t have anything planned for the rest of the day and aren’t using this to distract from a task :)) 

    — practice coloring during times when you’re not distressed, so that when you need to use this skill it will be easier and more “automatic”. i can’t stress this enough. even though coloring is really simple, it’s much better for the activity to feel familiar so that you can easily use it during distress. so if you can practice it during normal times it’ll help u. think of it as homework if you have to — you are building up a memory muscle.

    — if you feel guilty because you’re “wasting time” doing a “childish activity”, remind urself that ur doing this for your mental health, that this is an established skill recommended by top psychotherapists, and that calming down your distress so you can actually *do* the stuff you’re worried about (rather than procrastinating all day about the thing and not actually doing it) is the opposite of wasting time. remember that practicing this skill even when you’re not distressed is HOMEWORK, not optional time wasting thing. also, taking care of ur mental health is not a frivolous activity. it’s very important and crucial to a happy successful life.

I’d like to add that coloring inside the lines neatly and skillfully is something that impresses the fuck out of most artists. Yes, even professional working artists. I have seen artists genuinely lose their shit with admiration when someone could color inside all the lines (sometimes that artist is me). SO if you’re coloring and thinking ‘this is dumb i’m not an artist i bet an artist would laugh at me’ be assured most artists would actually be hooting enviously at you and then asking to borrow your crayons.

This is so cool.

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no but really i have slept with a sleep mask and ear plugs for the last six years and it’s really hard for me to sleep without something over my eyes because the pressure and dark are really soothing and basically impossible to sleep without ear plugs because everything is so fucking loud.

my current sleep mask looks like a sloth.



Dream Girls Blackout Sleep Masks are here~!  Ever since I started sleeping with a mask early last year, I haven’t been able to go without one since.  Common light sources can have a significant impact on restful sleep (electronics, roommates, nightlights, etc).  Especially blue light emitting devices such as cell phones, CFL bulbs, LED night lights, and tablets.  Naps are pretty rad, so why not get a great night’s sleep and look super cute while you’re at it!

I’ve included multiple skin tones but if yours isn’t represented, please let me know!  I’ll be more than happy to add it to the shop!


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